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10 Reasons to Rethink A Traditional Publisher

reasons-to-rethink-self-publishingSo you’ve written a book, fantastic! The good news is that a great deal of the hard work is already done. The bad news? There’s still plenty left to go! If you’re like most aspiring authors, you’ve spent a great deal of the last few months, maybe even years, imagining seeing your book listed among the hundreds of thousands available for sale through your favorite distributors. You want to see your name on a paperback novel or nonfiction title, and you want to know that what you’ve written will make a difference to someone, even if it’s just to brighten the time they spend with your content, story, or characters.

For most writers, they think that means making a deal with a book publisher. It’s true, publishers like Scholastic, Writer’s Digest Books, Penguin, Random House, and others have done a lot for many writers. Authors like Neil Gaiman, Stephen King, Simon Clark, and others have made household names for themselves by publishing books with those agencies however, traditional publishing isn’t what it used to be.

If you want to publish your manuscript, here are 10 reasons to rethink a traditional publisher and consider self-publishing your work.

1.      The Prestige Isn’t What It Used To Be

In the past it wasn’t possible to produce self-published books of high quality without substantial monetary investment, so getting a publishing contract was the only way for people to really have access to a nice looking version of a book you wrote. Now, through the power of eBook distributors and print on demand services, the thought of splitting profits with a publishing house for going to the trouble of printing your book for you is less appealing to would-be authors.

2.      You’re a Marketer, Not Just a Writer

There is no such thing as being “just a writer” anymore. If you want to publish, you’ll also be doing some level of marketing for yourself and the book. The up side of this is that with the rise of social media, this is easier than it has been in the past. It offers a great opportunity to connect directly with fans, but is a responsibility writers must take on that isn’t necessarily part of the conventional creative process.

3.      Profitability and Success Are Subjective

If you’re a stay at home Mom who has written a memoir about her battle with breast cancer to go along with her parenting blog, you’ll have a different idea of what success looks like than a best-selling author might for the next volume in their fantasy series. If you’re an entrepreneur looking to share how you made your latest idea into a profitable enterprise with your tribe or customers, you’ll be looking for much different opening sales numbers than Harper Collins or even some of the smaller imprints. Don’t let someone else shut down your dreams because you don’t have hundreds of thousands of projected sales. Not having them now doesn’t mean you won’t get there.

4.      “What the Market Wants” Might Not Be What The Market Wants

Think about the number of times J.K. Rowling was rejected when pitching Harry Potter. Think about how unlikely it would seem for a Twilight fan fiction to get picked up and turned into an internationally best-selling series with a multi-million dollar film franchise in the works. You might have a great story – why let gatekeepers in publishing determine whether or not people get to read it?

5.      It’s Not That Much Extra Work

Contrary to what you might think, it’s not that difficult to self-publish. If you blog or share writing of any kind anywhere on the internet, you’re already partway there. Whether you’re sharing your work in Facebook groups or have a Wattpad or Patreon, if you’re willing to put your work out into the universe, you can absolutely release a book. You’re putting your writing into the public eye for scrutiny already, and are working on building an audience who cares about what you have to say – that tends to be the hardest part! You’d be wise to get an editor, of course, but receiving feedback from people interested in your writing is invaluable. After your manuscript has had a thorough edit, take the extra initiative to grab cover art, and format your Word document. Then it’s just about as simple as hitting “send” on an email. (I’ll break everything down step by step in my upcoming e-course – F*ck Their Rules. Leave me your email and I’ll send you details as soon as registration launches! Whether you’re considering Createspace, Amazon KDP, Lulu, or Squarespace – I’ll have everything broken down for you so you won’t have to do an extra minute of research.)

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6.      Your Profits Will More Than Double

Did you know that authors tend to make 15-25% for each book sold when they sign a contract for a traditional book publishing deal? Did you know that independent authors can make up to 75% of each sale? If you’re going to be doing a lot of your own marketing anyway, why let someone else profit from your hard work?

7.      You’ll Have More Control

One thing I LOVE about self-publishing and publishing through my imprint, Spooky Words Press, is that everything is within my control. Want to do a collaboration and split the proceeds with the artist or other author? Sure! Want to schedule a sale of your books around your birthday or a date that is significant in the story? No problem! Decide you don’t like the cover art and want to put something else in place? Say the word, and you can update it. There is no red tape separating you from your hard work.

8.      It’s Not Hard

There’s this weird idea floating around that self-publishing is more difficult than traditional publishing. The concept spawns from the fact that self-published writers are doing all the work themselves, and in some cases that may be true however, the folks that say this are typically not the one who have actively sought out traditional publishers. They don’t take into account the time spent trying to find a literary agent whose work is compatible with their manuscript, the time contacting the agents who might be interested in their work and trying to solicit a reading of their book, handling all the rejections which will inevitably come from pitching a manuscript to a variety of agents, then working with an agent to determine a publisher which would be best suited for your work, combatting the feelings of rejection that come from being denied readings or being denied publication opportunities, the contract negotiating process once you are accepted (assuming that you do find a publisher, of course), and then the final process of editing, finalizing cover art (which you generally have little control over), and finally (finally) seeing your book in print. The process can take years, and tends to be convoluted, frustrating, and discouraging. Alternately, an incredibly motivated writer with time to commit to the task could format and submit a manuscript for self-publication within a few weeks. Which sounds easier to you?

9.      Readers Don’t Care if You’re Self-Published

Fun fact: As long as you have a gripping synopsis or book blurb and can effectively convince readers that your book is worth reading, readers don’t care if you published the book yourself. Many top-selling eBooks on Amazon today are not sold by traditional publishers, and numerous writers have ended up on the Best Seller lists with neither a cent spent on advertising or a big name publisher stamped on their spine. (Don’t believe me? Bad Neighborhood was one such book!) While it is more difficult for self-published, first time author titles to stay at the top of best-selling lists for their genres – it is absolutely an achievable goal if you’re producing the book yourself, so don’t let a desire to see your book in the top 5 or 10 best sellers in your genre discourage you from DIY publishing.

10. You Can Still Have it All

You don’t need a traditional publisher to have a high-quality eBook, printed book, OR audiobook. It’s true! Now through programs like Amazon’s ACX you can find qualified and talented voice talents to read your work or choose to narrate it yourself. Authors like Neil Gaiman have chosen to produce their books using ACX, and if you’re like me any excuse to liken yourself to Neil Gaiman is a good one. 😉 …In all seriousness, a concern I had when trying to decide how and where to publish my first book was whether or not I would be able to have printed copies (to sell and to give family and friends because HEY, I WROTE A BOOK), eBook copies (because I know a lot of people who don’t have room for physical books in their homes or who prefer ereaders and I know that more of these people exist than just the ones that I know), and audiobook copies (because I love listening to audiobooks when I’m commuting, and who doesn’t love a hearing a good scary story read aloud?). I was able to accomplish all 3 via self-publishing, and you can too!

What Are You Waiting For? Self-Publish Today!

If you want to take the extra steps, but aren’t sure of where to go or how exactly to begin you’re in luck. If you take part in my F*ck Their Rules Course and Toolkit for Self-Publication you’ll be walked through the steps for releasing a novel or nonfiction book through Createspace, Amazon KDP, Squarespace, and Lulu! (Plus I’m including a bonus module on audiobook creation through ACX!) If you want to be notified when registration launches, fill out the form below and I’ll shoot an email your way as soon as you can sign up.

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The Writing Your Memoir eBook is Now Available!

writing-your-memoir-ebookIt’s Here, It’s Here!

I’m in several writing groups online, and it happens time and time again. You want to write a memoir, but you’re struggling. It’s easy to come up with memories and things that are funny or interesting, but how do you string them all together? How do you decide what to cut? Will anyone even care?

If self-doubt is the plague of all writers (which I know it is), then the memoir writers have been served with an even nastier strain.

It’s because of my friends and colleague’s struggles that I decided to work on this project. Answering question after question on messaging boards was good, but my reach didn’t expand wide enough, that way. I’d reply, offer advice, and hope that more than one person was struggling with the same issue, and that all of them would see my reply.

I didn’t like those odds.

When I started my post series about how to write a memoir, my goal was to put together a useful toolkit for aspiring authors who may be struggling with creating a compelling book that will effectively tell their story. The Memoir writing industry is booming, and it can be difficult to tell whether your book is one of the good ones or completely lousy because you’re close to the content. Let’s be real, here. You’re writing about events that actually happened to you; how could you be totally impartial?

But Wait, There’s More

I don’t want to send you off with just one resource. That’s why, in addition to the eBook, you can have me look over your book blurb. There’s a small fee to help compensate me for my time, but I’d love to help you flesh it out and help people take an interest in your life, and your story. Whether you’re writing for yourself and your family, or for the world at large, a book blurb will help do some of the selling for you (even if you’re not trying to make literal sales.)

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Does it sound like something you’d like to check out? If so, click here or one of the above images to check out the eBook. Get started on your memoir today, and lose the excuses.

Writing Your Memoir – an eBook Resource

Writing Your Memoir

Many of us have thought about sharing our story, but struggle with the execution. Who would want to read about me? What is worth reading about? It’s time to kick those doubts to the curb, and start writing! If you enjoyed the Memoir Writing post series here on Blogging Onward, then you’re sure to love the Writing Your Memoir eBook. Not only does it feature the tips, tricks, and resources offered here on the blog, but it includes several exercises and tools which have never been featured here before, as well as tips on how to effectively outline your memoir to make planning and execution a breeze!

Outline:

  • Introduction
  • Content
  • Purpose
  • Audience
  • Outlining
  • Recalling Memories
  • Writing a Book Blurb
  • Exercises & Resources
    • Audience Guide
    • Brainstorm Guide
    • Desire Building
    • Averting Obstacles
    • Memory Recall
    • Book Blurb Practice

All of these sections were drafted with the goal of helping you. Writing your memoir is one of the most important things you can do to preserve your legacy, and share your story. I’d love to be a part of that. In fact, if you know that you’d like to have me take a look at your book blurb when you write it (using my methods, of course) – you can order that, too – right now! If I haven’t heard from you in a week of purchase with your blurb to evaluate, I’ll reach out and see where you are on the project. (See? A nudge to keep going is included, absolutely free!)

Writing a Memoir: Lesson Five – Recalling Memories

recalling-memoriesRecalling memories is often the most difficult part of writing a memoir. Often when my ghostwriting clients are trying to come up with ideas for the memoirs they narrate or email to me they’ll have to come back to a particular memory or scene a half dozen times before they’re satisfied that they really know what it is that they’re trying to talk about. Their ideas might conflict the first few times they touch on it, or they might not know if they arrived or their now spouse arrived first to their first date.

Why is that? Well, the human memory is a complicated and as it turns out pretty terrible thing. (Don’t believe me? Scientific American, the Journal of Vision, The Atlantic, and The Journal of Experimental Psychology are all willing to back me up on this.) We tend to believe we remember more than we actually do, which tends to be problematic when doing things like giving eye-witness testimony in a trial, and trying to tell your life story to your family and friends or a bunch of strangers who buy your memoir.

How to Improve Your Memory

The title of this section is a bit of a misnomer. I’m not giving you insight on how to improve your current memory or capacity to make new memories, but instead am offering tips I give my clients on how they can better recall existing memories that may have taken place in the distant past. (Or recent past. I don’t judge.)

  1. Physically write things down.
    I am a big proponent of writing by hand, but research has shown that writing things down with a pen enhances neural activity and helps to keep the mind sharp – more so than typing on a keyboard, anyway. If you’re struggling to remember things when you’re sitting at your computer, pick up a notepad and pen and see if jotting down the details you can remember helps to bring up more information.
  2. If you are trying to recall a specific instance, try building on what you already know.
    If you’ve already made a list of specific memories and you just need to conjure up a few more details, write down everything you can remember. Physically write things you remember down for bonus points. These details can be about the setting, the person(s) involved, yourself, your state of mind – literally anything that might jog your memory of the event you’d like to describe.
  3. Don’t try to organize your thoughts and memories before you have them.
    Leave putting your memories in order to when you add them to your outline, or when you’re trying to plan what to include. There is no reason that you should try to think about “other bad things that happened the year my pet turtle passed away” or “things I did with Dad”. Make a list of the memories you can recall, even if they’re snippets, and work from there. As long as the list makes sense to you, you’re golden. (Just be really sure that it makes sense to you. If you have to spend time recalling what your note means, it defeats the purpose.)

Still need help? Let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear what else you’ve tried to help jog your memory.

Additional Posts in this Series:

Introduction :: Lesson 1 – Content :: Lesson 2 – Purpose :: Lesson 3 – Audience :: Lesson 4 – Blurbs :: Lesson 5 – Recalling Memories

Writing a Memoir: Lesson Four – How to Write a Book Blurb

book-blurbWhy Book Descriptions Matter

To fully understand and appreciate this post, you’ll need to think about why book descriptions matter. Often it seems like the book blurb is an afterthought. It’s not the fault of the writer, after spending weeks, months, or years on producing memoir content including researching, writing, revising, and editing – it makes sense that they might not want to spend more time trying to concisely break down the contents of their book. The belief seems to be that if they vaguely summarize the content that the work will speak for itself.

In a perfect world, that would be true of all books. While nice in theory, it is pitiful in practice. It simply doesn’t work. That is why crafting a book blurb, though it may turn out to be somewhat time consuming, is absolutely vital.

At some point I’m confident you’ve heard of the “elevator pitch“. These succinct sales pitches are supposed to convince companies to hire you, buy your products, or utilize your services over the course of sixty seconds. The intention is the same as a book blurb – to pique the potential boss/client’s attention. (Though in our case, they are the reader.) Think of the book blurb not as an annoying step between you and self-publishing, but instead as an opportunity. It is your sales page, your elevator pitch, and your best shot at making a potential reader click the “buy it now” button rather than darting off to something else.

The Hard Part: Writing it Out
Fortunately for the fiction writers out there, writing a book blurb for a memoir is incredibly similar to writing a description for a fictional story. You should have the following goals and ideas in mind:

  1. Introduce the situation and characters
    In the case of a memoir, you are likely to be the main character. Refer to yourself in the third person, and let the readers know who you are and what to expect. Make sure you’re setting the stage and preparing readers for what’s beyond the cover of your book.
  2. What is the conflict or problem?
    Although this is some part of your life, ideally there is some moment, scenario, or circumstance which is the focal point or theme of the book. Share it with your potential reader in the blurb. Don’t make them dig for reasons to read your book – put it out in the open! You’ll lose readers more times than you’ll keep them if you make it hard work to understand the theme.
  3. Leave them hopeful and wanting more
    Offer the reader a glimmer of hope that whatever your conflict is will be resolved, and that everything will turn out okay. Does everything need to work out? Not at all, but the hope needs to be there to offset the conflict. By doing this you’re making readers care about the outcome of your memoir. People who care are people who act.
  4. Be sure the tone is right
    Are you telling the story of a scrappy underdog overcoming the odds? Are you sharing how you triumphed in spite of a troubled childhood, lousy career, bitter divorce, or terrible illness? Do you want to educate, empower, or entertain your audience? Keep these questions in mind when reviewing your potential blurb. If the description doesn’t match the book, you’ll end up with unhappy readers and negative reviews. You’re setting the expectation for the book in the blurb, so make sure that your themes, ideas, and issues match.

In addition to the example provided in Lesson One of a well-written book blurb, I’m including a few examples from best-selling memoirs which have their blurbs perfected.

Coming Clean: A Memoir by Kimberly Rae Miller

Kimberly Rae Miller is an immaculately put-together woman with a great career, a loving boyfriend, and a beautifully tidy apartment in Brooklyn. You would never guess that behind the closed doors of her family’s idyllic Long Island house hid teetering stacks of aging newspaper, broken computers, and boxes upon boxes of unused junk festering in every room — the product of her father’s painful and unending struggle with hoarding.

In this dazzling memoir, Miller brings to life her experience growing up in a rat-infested home, hiding her father’s shameful secret from friends for years, and the emotional burden that ultimately led to her suicide attempt. In beautiful prose, Miller sheds light on her complicated yet loving relationship with her parents, which has thrived in spite of the odds.

Coming Clean is a story about recognizing where you come from and understanding the relationships that define you. It is also a powerful story of recovery and redemption.

Breaking it Down: We know who the narrator is, we know what the circumstances are that she’s facing as well as the primary conflict, and it’s obvious what the tone is. The promise that the reader will find a better understanding of how to recognize where they, themselves come from and witness a powerful recovery and redemption fits the bill for not only offering a glimpse of hope, but sets the tone for the book in a meaningful way.

A House in the Sky: A Memoir by Amanda Lindhout and Sara Corbett

BREAKING NEWS: Amanda Lindhout’s lead kidnapper, Ali Omar Ader, has been caught.

Amanda Lindhout wrote about her fifteen month abduction in Somalia in A House in the Sky. It is the New York Times bestselling memoir of a woman whose curiosity led her to the world’s most remote places and then into captivity: “Exquisitely told…A young woman’s harrowing coming-of-age story and an extraordinary narrative of forgiveness and spiritual triumph” (The New York Times Book Review).

As a child, Amanda Lindhout escaped a violent household by paging through issues of National Geographic and imagining herself visiting its exotic locales. At the age of nineteen, working as a cocktail waitress, she began saving her tips so she could travel the globe. Aspiring to understand the world and live a significant life, she backpacked through Latin America, Laos, Bangladesh, and India, and emboldened by each adventure, went on to Sudan, Syria, and Pakistan. In war-ridden Afghanistan and Iraq she carved out a fledgling career as a television reporter. And then, in August 2008, she traveled to Somalia—“the most dangerous place on earth.” On her fourth day, she was abducted by a group of masked men along a dusty road.

Held hostage for 460 days, Amanda survives on memory—every lush detail of the world she experienced in her life before captivity—and on strategy, fortitude, and hope. When she is most desperate, she visits a house in the sky, high above the woman kept in chains, in the dark.

Vivid and suspenseful, as artfully written as the finest novel, A House in the Sky is “a searingly unsentimental account. Ultimately it is compassion—for her naïve younger self, for her kidnappers—that becomes the key to Lindhout’s survival” (O, The Oprah Magazine).

Breaking it Down: This book description takes a unique approach, did you catch it? It has a micro-description, within the description. We learn about the main character, main conflict, are offered some hope and learn the tone of the book all within the first paragraph. The writer opted to elaborate more, but the mini lead in description is a great tactic to catch even the most impatient readers. Are they likely to finish your manuscript? Well, that depends on how effectively you hook them in after they begin to actually read your book.

The Glass Castle: A Memoir by Jeanette Walls

Jeannette Walls grew up with parents whose ideals and stubborn nonconformity were both their curse and their salvation. Rex and Rose Mary Walls had four children. In the beginning, they lived like nomads, moving among Southwest desert towns, camping in the mountains. Rex was a charismatic, brilliant man who, when sober, captured his children’s imagination, teaching them physics, geology, and above all, how to embrace life fearlessly. Rose Mary, who painted and wrote and couldn’t stand the responsibility of providing for her family, called herself an “excitement addict.” Cooking a meal that would be consumed in fifteen minutes had no appeal when she could make a painting that might last forever.

Later, when the money ran out, or the romance of the wandering life faded, the Walls retreated to the dismal West Virginia mining town — and the family — Rex Walls had done everything he could to escape. He drank. He stole the grocery money and disappeared for days. As the dysfunction of the family escalated, Jeannette and her brother and sisters had to fend for themselves, supporting one another as they weathered their parents’ betrayals and, finally, found the resources and will to leave home.

What is so astonishing about Jeannette Walls is not just that she had the guts and tenacity and intelligence to get out, but that she describes her parents with such deep affection and generosity. Hers is a story of triumph against all odds, but also a tender, moving tale of unconditional love in a family that despite its profound flaws gave her the fiery determination to carve out a successful life on her own terms.

For two decades, Jeannette Walls hid her roots. Now she tells her own story. A regular contributor to MSNBC.com, she lives in New York and Long Island and is married to the writer John Taylor.

Breaking it Down: This description introduces several main characters and describes each of them effectively. It represents not only the negative sides, but embraces the positive and offers hope where there might not have been any, otherwise. It captures the spirit of Jeanette Walls when it goes on to describe a woman who is committed to regarding her parents with affection despite her upbringing.

Still Not Sure You Have it Down?

It’s okay if you aren’t feeling confident about your blurb yet. It can be difficult to let a book go out into the world to fend for itself, especially when it features such intensely personal subject matter. Have friends, family, and any fellow writers you know look over it for you and evaluate it. Don’t hesitate to reach out to your support network and tribe.

Alternately, if you aren’t sure that your friends and colleagues will provide thorough feedback, I am willing to evaluate book reviews and provide detailed, constructive book blurb feedback for a small, $15.00 flat fee. — Sometimes all it takes is another set of eyes to look over your content in an objective way. I’d love to help you iron the kinks out of your book description.

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So What’s Left?
We’re coming to the close of this post series, which means that an ebook with additional content is in our future. The final post that I have planned as of right now is on why outlining is important when constructing a memoir. Why is this last? Well, I bumped the blurbs post up because of a comment from a reader which said they were delaying publication until they read this post (talk about pressure!), but I do want to highlight the importance of developing a cohesive chain of events and thoughts in a memoir. Sometimes following the natural progression of time just doesn’t cut it, and an outline will help you see that before most of the manuscript is written.

Additional Posts in this Series:

Introduction :: Lesson 1 – Content :: Lesson 2 – Purpose :: Lesson 3 – Audience :: Lesson 4 – Blurbs :: Lesson 5 – Recalling Memories