Bi week is over, but that doesn’t mean our acknowledgement of bisexuals in art, media, and the world around us needs to end. This post addresses some of the ways you can help reduce the stigmas facing bi and pan folks, whether you identify as such or are an ally.
If You Love the Work of a Bi/Pan Artist, Actor, Director, Writer, or Simply Have a Friend Who Identifies as a Multi-Attracted Person, Acknowledge Their Sexuality.
Assuming either homo or heterosexuality can effectively erase part of someone’s identity, and if it is someone you know personally that can be hurtful for them. Plus, open support for a bi/pan person may make other bi/pan folks feel comfortable discussing their sexuality with you.
If You Are Out And Identify as Bi/Pansexual, Acknowledge it or Mention it When Sexuality or Dating is Brought Up. If You Aren’t Out or Aren’t Bi/Pan, Still Vouch For These Identities as Valid.
There are stigmas surrounding being bisexual. They’re wrongfully believed to be more promiscuous, confused, or simply people who are looking for attention from one of the sexes/gender identities. By offering yourself as an example, or defending bi/pansexualsi you are helping to dismantle these fake, harmful beliefs.
Fight the Urge to Assume Anything About Someone’s Sexuality
A bisexual woman doesn’t become a lesbian when she has a girlfriend. She doesn’t become straight when she has a boyfriend. If a bisexual man has never had a male partner he isn’t straight. Someone’s sexuality isn’t determined by whoever they are dating presently or have dated in the past. Try to resist the pressures of our heteronormative society to push people you see or encounter into tidy little “gay” or “straight” boxes as though pansexuality, bisexuality, or asexuality isn’t valid.
Voice Your Support and Take Action
Hear about some homophobic legislature you think is garbage? Let people know! Sign petitions. Vote for politicians who support gay rights, because although it may not be acknowledged much within the community, gay rights are bi and pansexual rights.
What Are You Doing?
What other ways have you found to support family, friends, or yourself within the LGBTQ+ community and in the world beyond? If you’d like suggestions for how you can help represent Bi and Pan folks in your writing, check out my previous post on how you can represent Bisexuality in fiction.